Overcome Fear & Find Success

You’ve probably heard of the fight or flight response. It’s believed that in a fearful or stressful situation, you either fight or flee.

When speaking of fight or flight, most of us imagine dangerous circumstances where our lives are at risk. If you’ve experienced that, you know how you will react. If you haven’t, you probably have an expectation of whether you’d respond with fight or flight.

But what if the fear is in the subconscious or unconscious mind? Would you even be aware your mind is reacting to protect you from that fear?

If there’s a goal you have, but won’t pursue, or if you struggle to define a goal at all, your mind is probably going into “flight” mode. You have some fear around success and you’re running from it.

The first step to overcoming any fear is to recognize it and bring awareness to it. Once you’ve done that, you can begin to identify when fear is creeping in and you can face it directly.

Which Fear Is Holding You Back?

Everyone struggles with multiple fears, but typically there’s one or two that are dominant. We’ve outlined fears that are subconscious (fears you are aware of when you think about them) and unconscious fears (deep seated fears that are harder to identify).

Subconscious Fears

  • Fear of Failure – This is the primary fear preventing people from having success. Individuals who struggle with this fear worry about things that could go wrong in a given situation, and most often decide to avoid the risk altogether. ‍
  • Fear of Being Wrong – If you struggle with this, you have a need to be right and for others to be wrong. This results in stubbornness and destructive behavior that prevents you from progressing.‍
  • Fear of Letting Go – This fear will foster a need to control situations and people. You’ll typically find it difficult to collaborate or trust others to help. Since no one can completely control any situation or person, this fear sets you up to fail.‍
  • Fear of Others – With this fear, you feel judged by others, becoming self-conscious and overly critical of yourself. It’s very difficult to succeed when you don’t believe in yourself.

Unconscious Fears

  • ‍Need to Know – Individuals struggling with this fear want to know the outcome of any situation. They fear the unknown and unfamiliar, preferring to stay in the safety of their comfort zone where growth is stifled.‍
  • Fear of Success – If you focus on the negative consequences of success, rather than the benefits, you have a fear of success. People with this fear tend to self-sabotage and avoid the success altogether.‍
  • Not Good Enough – If you obsessively compare yourself to others and fear you don’t measure up, you suffer from not feeling good enough. This results in self-defeating behaviors that prevent your success. ‍
  • Self-Worth – This fear comes from believing you have little or no value. You put others before yourself, meaning you can be prone to toxic relationships, both personally and professionally. Not seeing and believing in your value will prevent you from deciding what you want and knowing you deserve it.

Do you recognize any of these fears in yourself?

If fear is holding you back from finding the career you want, we want to give you the push you need to pursue what you want. Start by checking out our available positions.

The Truth Behind Common Career Myths

Do you feel stuck in a job you don’t like? We often make up excuses to stay in jobs that make us unhappy, but regardless of what we tell ourselves, all of these stories boil down to fear.

Leaving the security of a job, especially during tough economic times, is a frightening thought – but so is continuing to work in a place that leaves you unfulfilled and unsatisfied.

We want to debunk some of the myths we tell ourselves around staying in a bad job.

Myth: Things are tough, so I can’t make a career change right now.

Truth: Sometimes negative events can be a catalyst for positive change.

Whether you’re experiencing tough times on a personal or global level, it can be difficult to think of adding a career change on top of those stresses. But sometimes tough times can reveal a new purpose or meaningful opportunity.

There are countless stories of people who have turned tragedy into something meaningful. It can be done. You just have to let yourself be open to the idea of change.

Right now we’re all experiencing one of the most challenging periods in history. We’ve seen a downturn in the economy due to COVID-19. While it’s true that fewer companies are hiring and there is more competition, the roles are still out there. There are companies that are innovating to adapt to the changing world. There are also companies who have seen an increase in demand during this time.

The key is making yourself stand out by highlighting your passions and skills. It may not be a quick or easy change, but don’t let fear be the thing that stops you from finding something better.

Myth: I’m just lucky to have a job.

Truth: It’s possible to be grateful for a job, but still not love it.

As we see unemployment rise and more companies go through layoffs, it’s normal to feel gratitude for what we do have. It’s also a good thing. There are proven benefits to expressing gratitude and it’s something that should be part of your daily routine.

But it’s also okay to be grateful for what you have while admitting you long for something better. Accepting what is because you know it could be worse is twisting gratitude into an excuse to hold yourself back. Allow yourself to strive for more. Do you know what you want? Do you have a dream job?

Myth: I can’t afford to leave my job right now.

Truth: You don’t have to leave your job (yet) to start the career transformation process.

Career transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It is a process that takes time and commitment.

Deciding you want to find something better doesn’t mean you have to quit your job tomorrow. It simply means you’re ready to start the process of identifying what kind of career will bring you joy, and what kinds of companies will value who you are. THEN taking the steps to find them and go after them.

What can I do to find a career I love?

Share On Purpose was created to help individuals find careers they love, and then support them as they grow into leadership roles doing that work. Find out about our available positions today.

Don’t let fear hold you back from finding happiness and fulfillment in your career!

Are You Considering a New Career Due to the Pandemic?

The pandemic has had a significant impact on each of our lives. Some effects are temporary, but many of the ways we’ve had to adapt will become permanent changes.

Several of the most prevalent changes are for employers and employees. These changes have encouraged or forced many professionals to begin a job search.

recent survey found more than half of Americans involved in career searches are doing so as a direct result of the pandemic.

That same survey also found that 61% of job seekers are looking to switch industries – particularly into technology and healthcare, as those industries continue to thrive.

Work-from-Home Jobs

Where and how we work has also been significantly impacted.

Pre-COVID, only 3.6% of employees worked from home at least half of their work week. Kate Lister, President of Global Workplace Analytics, has stated: “Our best estimate is that 25-30% of the workforce will be working-from-home multiple days a week by the end of 2021.

What Next?

Share On Purpose was built to be a place of possibilities. We have adapted to ensure we can continue growing, despite the challenges the world is currently facing. In addition, our unique portfolio model allows individuals to be exposed to different brands and a wide variety of work and clients, so you can decide what is the best fit for you.

If you’re interested in a joining a growing business, view our available positions.

Moving from the Fear Zone to the Growth Zone

There are times when a social post resonates and reverberates through your soul. Such was the case in April of 2019 when this graphic showing the Comfort, Fear, Learning and Growth Zone phases showed up in my timeline.

I immediately began searching for the original author, as the graphic encompassed profound wisdom that was worthy of attribution. I wasn’t able to find the original creator of this masterpiece, only others who had repurposed it with praise.

A chart going from your comfort zone to growth zone

Since the current pandemic has thrown the world into fear, this graphic has come to mind. In times like these, it’s not uncommon for those who have previously pushed past the Comfort and Fear Zone to revert back.

Such is the extremity of the pandemic to test our ability to learn and grow. We may find that we begin to dwell again on our fears and seek to get some kind of control.

With so much uncertainty, the sense of control can be a great source of comfort, but we mustn’t let it put us in a place where we’re stagnant.  But how do we continue to learn and grow, despite the current climate?

Moving From the Comfort Zone to the Growth Zone

Even before this pandemic I tried to understand why some people are able to break through barriers and grow, while others get stuck in the Comfort Zone. The simple answer is “fear is the only thing holding us back,” but it seems as if there should be a better explanation.

Why isn’t it as simple as: if you want to learn something, just learn it? Or, if you want to experience more in your life, why not just pursue it?

What is it, exactly, that holds us back from experiencing more joy and happiness? Simply put – fear.

Fear stops us from leaving the Comfort Zone, but also prevents us from moving into the Learning Zone.

It is like a wall that blocks us. When we try to overcome fear, often we just ignore it or push it down. However, the fear we ignored eventually returns and limits our ability to move forward. Most of us actually dread the FEELING of fear in our body and avoid it at great cost.

What I’ve learned about Life Transformation is that for any new growth area we want to experience, we have to face and move through fear rather than pretend it’s not there.

What does it mean to “move through” fear?

Well, rather than trying to make fear go away, we move through it, meaning we acknowledge its presence and make the fear conscious. When we make fears conscious, the fear no longer has power over us. And, once it no longer has power over us, we slowly gain control over it.

Once we move through fear, we then can learn new skills in order to grow –without the barrier of fear standing in our way.

Although this isn’t an easy task at first, it is well worth the effort, because we become better equipped to move through new fears that come up in any area of our life.

3 Ways to Move into the Growth Zone

There are three key things I’ve personally used to overcome fear and grow into my potential:

1)   Identify the Fear

Fear is like a giant wall preventing us from growth. It also prevents us from achieving our dreams and desires.

Before we can move past fear, it’s imperative to understand what these barriers are and not just ignore them. The beauty is…once we become aware of our fears and barriers, and move them into our conscious mind, it becomes easier to move through them.

2)   Seek Solutions

My grandfather taught me at an early age, if something’s not working, try something new. As a child, I had no idea how invaluable this advice would be, but now I know it’s one of my strengths. I don’t accept what is, unless it’s what I want, and I challenge anything that isn’t working by looking for an alternative.

I’ve learned that “there’s always a solution to a well-defined problem”. So, if we define the fear, and then seek solutions to breaking through it, the mere focus on the solution will attract the resources and tools we need to move through the fear or barrier.

3)   Seek Comfort in Change

The beauty with breaking through to the Growth Zone is that as we become equipped at moving through fear, and seeking solutions to barriers, our comfort zone actually EXPANDS. We become more and more comfortable with growth, and change, and ultimately transformation. And, when we’re comfortable with transformation, we have nothing holding us back from achieving our potential and can create the life we desire.

How to Apply the 3 Keys to Achieving Your Potential

  • Ask yourself: “What is holding me back?” Name it. Make it conscious. Face your fears and move through them.
  • Seek solutions: In any area of your life you want to change, LOOK FOR SOLUTIONS. Don’t accept mediocrity, don’t accept what is. There is always a solution to any clearly defined problem.
  • Expand to the Growth Zone: By challenging your limits and looking for solutions, your comfort zone will expand into growth. And, when you do that, there’s nothing you can’t achieve.

 

 

Keeping Hope Amongst Fear

Each new year, most of us are filled with hope. Hope is why we celebrate right when the clock strikes midnight on a new year. It’s why we make resolutions. We’re ready to forget the hardships of the previous year and improve our lives.

For many of us, 2020 was a milestone. Not just a new year, but a new decade. For years prior, we looked forward, hopeful that 2020 would be the start of something new. The year things would turn around for the better. Or if you were already on an upward trajectory, things would continue going your way.

Winston Churchill QuoteLittle did we know, we’d be facing a global pandemic in 2020 and our lives will certainly be changed forever. At the moment, there is no end in sight. Projections for the lives that could be lost are staggering. The outlook for the economy is bleak. This is a scary time for many of us throughout the world and it would be easy to dwell in that fear.

But working at Share On Purpose the past eight years has taught me that hope is a powerful tool. One that, if given the attention it deserves, can change your present and your future.

We are a small company with big dreams, yet working towards them has not always been easy. We’ve parted with clients that made up the majority of our revenue. We grew too quickly without the right staff and infrastructure in place to support that growth. We’ve put trust in places we shouldn’t have. All of these missteps set us back on our path to reaching our dreams, but we have always been guided to keep hope.

Keeping hope means we set a certain expectation for how things will work out. We know that we’ll be able to work through whatever obstacle we’re facing and come out stronger on the other side by utilizing the lessons learned. We remain relentless in our belief that things will work out the way we want. The path most certainly isn’t what we thought it’d be, but we choose to believe the end result will be the same.

During difficult times, it can be hard to think about where you’re going and instead, set your attention on your present – your anger, fear and frustration. That’s when you must shift your focus to what is working. Find things to be grateful for. During tough business times, we focused on how our team came together and how we were able to innovate. This made it easier to keep hope.

For everyone who is stuck at home and fearful right now, find reasons to be grateful. Even though we’re physically separated, there’s a stronger sense of connection than I can ever recall before. I’ve spoken with more of my neighbors (from a safe distance) in the past two weeks than I had in the past two years living in my home. My social pages are filled with messages of people offering help to anyone who may need it, even complete strangers. We’re seeing videos from all around the world of communities coming together in unique ways, and even without being present, we feel a part of it. Yes, there is plenty bad, but there is also beauty in this pandemic.

We encourage you all to focus on what is working, finds things to be grateful for, and choose to keep hope.

“May your choices reflect your hope. Not your fear.” – Nelson Mandela

Conscious Business – Business with a Purpose

Entrepreneurship has always been a driving force in societal transformation. And I believe it will be the driving force in the shift towards a better way of doing business.

For most entrepreneurs, our business is an extension of our values. Therefore we prioritize serving customers, taking care of our employees and making a positive impact in our community, IN ORDER TO make money.

Today, these core entrepreneurial values are now being defined as a form of “conscious business.” Although most of us didn’t start a business to “be a conscious entrepreneur” we did start the business to have the freedom to do work that is aligned with our values. Many of us also started our companies to make the world better, while making money.

I am frequently asked if growing a conscious business is different from growing a traditional business, and the answer is always – “Yes, very much.”

Consciousness is an inner game; it’s the heart and soul of the entrepreneur. What truly defines a conscious entrepreneur are the values with which they lead their business.

Let me provide contrast:

Some entrepreneurs start a business thinking only about making money. “I can make money doing this,” or “This idea will make me rich.”

For example, when I started my first company in 2002, it was just after September 11th and I had been profoundly impacted by that event. Exhausted by corporate politics, I wanted to start a small consulting company to make money in my field of expertise – sales & marketing. I never thought to ask myself if I actually enjoyed the work, or if the work mattered. I only considered entrepreneurship as a way of making money.

Although that business employed over 40 consultants who helped grow some of the largest brands in the world, it wasn’t a conscious business. I made a lot of money yet wasn’t fulfilled by the work. I paid my staff well but didn’t invest in them the way I do today. In essence, my head was in the business, but not my heart and soul.

Conversely, conscious brands start much differently. The genesis of a conscious business is usually based on the founder’s passion (I love doing this) as well as their strengths (I am good at that). They simply want to make money doing what they love and leverage their strengths along the way. Because they love what they do, they are able to accept the risk of entrepreneurship.

Whether the entrepreneur realizes it or not, this is the hallmark of a conscious venture, because our purpose is based on our passions AND strengths. Purpose isn’t an esoteric woo-woo thing. It’s simply about alignment. Purpose is the reason WHY we love what we do.

During the process of building this type of business, entrepreneurs feel a connection to a deeper part of themselves, and their decisions become more mindful, or more conscious. They care deeply about their employees and customers. As they make money, they want to give back to their community in meaningful ways.

It’s an amazing feeling…there is nothing quite like it. Although this type of entrepreneurial path isn’t easier, it is a million times more meaningful.

Today, I have several consulting companies in our Share On Purpose portfolio (IGNITE On Purpose, Promote On Purpose, Talent On Purpose), yet unlike my first venture, I love the work and care deeply about each team member. Each employee is guided to find their purpose and mold and shape their role to one that is meaningful and fulfilling.

If you’re struggling to find meaning in your current role, it may be time for a change. Learn more about our available positions here.

Measuring What Matters: Focus on Growth

Since our family was poor growing up, the holiday season was challenging. While my friends were boasting about their gift wish lists for Santa, I was left to longingly stare at the Sear’s Wish Book knowing full well that Santa was make-believe, and most of the toys I circled were a fantasy.

One December weekend I spent the afternoon with my Grandpa and he asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I told him that what I really wanted was a 10-speed bike. Back then, 10-speed bikes were hugely popular. My friends had received 10-speed bikes the previous year, and I felt totally behind the times. I begged for a 10-speed bike for my birthday, and again for Christmas, but I knew it was a long shot.

Gramps sensed my disappointment and asked, “Why do you want a 10-speed?”

Right on cue, I said, “Because my friends have one, and I want to ride with them.”

He smiled and said, “What’s more important, getting what you want, or getting where you want to go?”

At first, I thought he was talking about me wanting to ride with my friends, and I looked at him puzzled.

He continued, “Terri, because your parents don’t have the same resources as your friends, you have to focus on where you want to GROW, rather than what you want to get.”

He then went on to explain the reason he gave me books as gifts (rather than cool toys) was to help me grow into the type of person who would never have to worry about money in the future. At a mere 10 years old, I couldn’t fully comprehend this wisdom at the time, but I instinctively trusted the resolve in his voice.

“If you want your future life to be different than your present, you have to focus on growth. By focusing on growth, you get where you want to go and reach your potential IF you make a commitment to growth, rather than gifts.”

In retrospect, wow, he was right. Over time, I became an avid reader and leveraged books to both escape my childhood challenges, but also to accelerate the achievement of my goals. I developed perseverance, which led to a state of fearlessness related to obstacles.

I’ve learned to measure what matters most. Each year I measure the growth I’ve had in my professional and personal life, while still looking forward to continued growth and experiences to enrich the rest of my life.

Yes, I’ve had challenges in my life, but by focusing on the growth I had during those times, I’m able to persevere and keep on my path towards a continuously more abundant life.

Share On Purpose is focused on the growth and development of an individual as a whole. If you want to join a company that encourages you to step outside your comfort zone and grow, check out our available positions here.

And happy holidays from the Share On Purpose family!

Hopeful for the Future, Grateful for the Past

The time around Thanksgiving is always a gentle reminder of the power of gratitude and the strength in hopefulness.

I’ve heard many people lament 2019. For Share On Purpose, Inc. 2019 represented one of the most challenging periods in our company’s history. The year was just plain hard.

Interestingly enough, our culture was fortified during the most challenging periods in our company’s evolution. And 2019 was no different. Our leaders found strength they didn’t know they had and earned the leadership roles they now proudly hold.

Most of us here are chasing the biggest dream we’ve ever had, and yet this year we were pushed to our limits more than once.

But something inside of us, separately and together, encouraged us to keep going. Although we had much to fear, we always found a reason to hope.

Maybe it’s the vision we hold or the purpose behind it. Maybe’s its intuition or some other divine force. Possibly, it’s the power of perseverance deep within our soul.

Whatever it is, hopefulness is what we choose.

Hopeful is defined as “feeling or inspiring optimism about a future event” – which is how we see our company, regardless of the challenges we experience along the way.

This is important because HOPE is the key to achieving a dream. We must be inspired about a future vision, no matter what the present holds.

Most of us were taught to use external events, as an indication of success. As kids, we’ve heard questions like: “Did you win?” “Did you get an A in your test?” We’ve learned to evaluate our dreams, based on external measures of success.

This doesn’t work. To achieve a dream, we must look past our present reality to the hopefulness of that very dream, while being grateful for what is.

Because I faced extreme poverty and abuse as a child, I developed the power of hopefulness early on, which helped me to look past my immediate challenges to the sheer will to survive.

Rather than look at what was happening for hope, I learned how to shift my perspective to the dream of something different. I saw things the way I wanted them to be, rather than how they were at that moment. I learned to look for the good in everything. And… that filled me with hope.

Today, that hopefulness is now pervasive in our company culture. No matter what happens, our core leaders are able to shift their perspective to the good that can come from the challenge, rather than dwell on the challenge itself.

The truth is, we learn from each challenge we face, so difficulties are part of our growth, and part of how we achieve our dream. For Share On Purpose, challenges are simply a step on the path to reach our ultimate goal – creating a place of possibilities.

It may sound utopian to some, but it’s who we are at our core.

I was reminded of the power of choosing hope recently while watching an amazing movie, The Art of Racing in the Rain. On the surface, the movie is about a race car driver and his very special dog. However, look a little deeper, and you’ll see that the movie is really about the power to focus on what you want to create, rather than let life’s circumstances (in this case rain), control you. It’s one of the most inspiring movies I’ve seen about the power of hope.

As we near Thanksgiving, I’m most grateful for hope.

– Hope that things will improve in our nation

– Hope that there are better times ahead

– Hope that we are a beacon of “possibilities”

– Hope that we attract the best talent

– Hope for profitable growth

– Hope for powerful new concepts to launch

What are you hopeful about? What do you want to create with this life you’ve been given?

If you want to build something great, bring a spirit of hopefulness to your professional endeavors. Anyone can be critical and judgmental, but those who do great things know that hopefulness is THE attribute that produces victory.

Happy Thanksgiving. Be a beacon of hope.

Perseverance: The Key to Career Success

The ability to persevere through challenges and obstacles is the key to career success. However, in many cases, it is easier said than done. So, what stops us?

Fear is the number one thing that keeps us from having what we want.

Now I’m not talking about the kind of fear that keeps us from walking down a dark alley in the middle of the night. What I’m referring to are the fears that keep us from living, growing, achieving – such as fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear about the opinions of others, and for many even the fear of success.

As a result of this irrational fear, we convince ourselves that there is nothing we can do to improve our situation, e.g. that we don’t have what we need, we aren’t smart enough, or it’s too risky. So, we don’t do anything and accept where we are.

The truth is: when we really want something, there is always a way to overcome fear.

Truly successful people have two things in common:

They believe in a dream, vision, or goal

They believe in this so much that they will do ANYTHING to reach it. As a result, they tap into the invisible and unlimited power of perseverance. Perseverance is inside each of us, but only a few choose to access it. Successful people harness the power of perseverance by simply refusing to quit. This is easier than you might think. Those who achieve their dreams DECIDE that failure is not an option and, as a result, they persevere.

The second thing successful people do is face each fear head-on

They call the fear out from the dark recesses of the subconscious mind. By naming a fear and facing it, we shine a light on our innate ability to overcome that which we fear.

How to Push through the Fear

We don’t always recognize what it is that is holding us back, which is why so many tend to settle for less than what they’re worth. We all have fears. Some we might be aware of and some we might not. To recognize fear and face it head-on, the process works like this:

DECIDE on a dream or goal

The biggest issue with fear is that we don’t decide what we want.

FEEL the fear

When you think about your dream or goal, you WILL feel fear. This does not mean that you won’t get it, rather it means that you’re afraid you won’t. Do not let this fear dissuade you.

FACE the fear

In order to grow, we simply have to face the fear. Look at it, feel it, make it conscious; bring it into your awareness.

ACCESS perseverance

When we face the fear, we are able to access the power of perseverance to PUSH through fear and resistance. Just search your body for the feeling of perseverance (it will feel the exact opposite of fear).

The key is to PUSH through fear. Name it. Move forward in spite of how it feels (because it doesn’t feel good at first). Decide that failure is not an option. Once you do this, you’ll quickly feel the energetic sensation of perseverance. As you use that energy, you will find yourself growing, and then your ability to face the fear grows with it.

So, are you ready to face that fear today?

If fear is stopping you from taking the next leap in your career, now is the time to push through. Join a company that is committed to your professional and personal growth. Learn about our available positions here.

Embrace “And” in an “Or” World

As I reflect on my life, there is a long list of things to be grateful for. Near the top of that list is being thankful for the courage to challenge “or” thinking, while seeking the power of “and.”

There is tremendous power in “AND.”

Most of us have been conditioned to make trade-offs. I can have work-life balance OR financial success. Meaning OR money.

But both? We don’t even consider it an option because we are trapped in the world of “or.” Unfortunately, this “or” thinking is now so firmly entrenched in our culture that it’s showing up in all aspects of American life (win or lose, good or bad, liberal or conservative).

It’s Time for Change

A group called Business Roundtable (181 CEO’s of America’s largest brands representing 30% of market capitalization) stated officially that a company needs a purpose beyond just profit.

They said business should DO GOOD. That business should care about people. Rich, successful corporate CEOs had a purposeful awakening. Hmm.

Although their statement could be considered benign as they are just words without policy change at this point, the words do matter.

These CEO’s have determined business should seek meaning AND money.

Embrace “AND”

The realization recently reached by the Business Roundtable is something Share On Purpose has been striving for since its creation. We don’t have to be limited by “or.” If the way we view and think about life doesn’t create the results we want, then it’s time to think differently. It’s time to embrace “AND.”

“Or” thinking is a trap. It’s not the way our lives were meant to be lived, so we certainly should not settle for it. So, why do we automatically assume there are limitations and that we must make trade-offs?

We have conditioned our minds to do so, and it’s a giant misconception. It’s not real. Although it’s true there are limits, those limits are NOT meant to restrict our desires, but rather to guide us towards the path to more.

We do not have to make trade-offs with an “OR” mindset. To reach for more, and truly embrace the “AND” that is waiting for us, rather than assuming there are limits, we must simply embrace that we can have everything we want, as long as we prioritize. It’s not about giving anything up, but instead reaching for all that we want, while understanding that we have to get there a different way.

To embrace this different way, we must relinquish the power that “or” thinking has on our subconscious mind while learning how to choose “and” thoughts. It sounds easier than it is. Like it or not, we are trapped by the limits of “or.”

It’s a habitual endless charade.

It does not have to be like that, and I know first-hand.

When I finally challenged “or” thinking and stepped into “and,” I was driven by the quest to be my authentic self. I wanted to do purposeful work. Having reaped the financial rewards of entrepreneurship, I was now hungry for meaning.

The Share On Purpose portfolio of companies was born out of that shift.

“And” thinking is rocket fuel – a power so intense it requires a LOT of adjustment. Most of my failures during this journey were because I didn’t understand the power of “and,” nor how to harness the energy it generates.

It’s kind of like driving a 4-cylinder car your whole life and all of sudden you buy a 12-cylinder Ferrari, which is way more power than you’re used to.

The truth is – the power of “and” requires some getting used to. Old ways of being, the ones trapped in “or” thinking, take time to undo.

So, how can you gradually step into the power of “and”?

1) Start small. Find one thing you’d really like to do, on a small scale, leveraging the power of “and”. Try something simple. Think of it like a lab experiment and put yourself in the Petri dish.

Make a list of combinations. Examples such as:

– Spend time with family AND rest

– Eat healthy AND enjoy the food

– Work out AND have fun

– Have a career I love AND pays well

Try to list 4-5 possible “and” combinations; small scale items that you’d find pleasure in testing.

2) Focus on desire. Which “and” combo would be the MOST enjoyable? Desire fuels motivation. Choose one you really want to experience and commit to testing it in the next week. Don’t wait. Try it now before “or” clutches you back into its grasp.

3) Begin with the end in mind and get clear on what you want to create. Take time to define the vision of “and” for this small experiment. What would it look like if you could have both of the items on your “and” list?

One of the reasons we stay trapped in “or” is because we don’t really know what we want. Being clear on what we want is the key to creating more. Define what your “and” looks like in clear terms. Be crystal clear.

4) Decide. The second reason we don’t make the transformation (besides not being clear) is that we don’t make a decision to change what we are doing. Make the choice to test it and start now.

5) Focus on perception rather than perfection. Don’t try to make the experience perfect. Just take a step towards what you want and observe your perceptions along the way. How do you view what happens? After all, it’s a Petri dish experiment and observation is key.

Things to look for:

– Do you judge yourself?

– Was it easy? What was hard?

– What is your self-talk?

– Do you allow others to talk you out of what you really want?

– Where does self-sabotage kick in? Why did you let it?

6) Evaluate, adjust and repeat.  Small “and” steps will ensure that you retrain your mind without the added pressure of intense risk.

Creating an “and” filled life is the reason why Share On Purpose exists.

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